Comments on: Working and Mothering…No Apologies http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/2009/05/23/working-and-motheringno-apologies/ The quest for flexibility in a rigid world Thu, 29 Jul 2010 02:28:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: How the New Book "Womenomics" Got It Wrong | Connecting Career and Life http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/2009/05/23/working-and-motheringno-apologies/#comment-404 How the New Book "Womenomics" Got It Wrong | Connecting Career and Life Wed, 10 Jun 2009 18:52:03 +0000 http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/?p=436#comment-404 [...] makes sense for he and his wife and their family.  The fact that there are blogs, and articles and comments on other blogs about stay-at-home dads tells me that is absolutely a solution people are turning [...] [...] makes sense for he and his wife and their family.  The fact that there are blogs, and articles and comments on other blogs about stay-at-home dads tells me that is absolutely a solution people are turning [...]

]]> By: Debra Snider http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/2009/05/23/working-and-motheringno-apologies/#comment-327 Debra Snider Thu, 28 May 2009 17:57:47 +0000 http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/?p=436#comment-327 I don't oppose stay-at-home mother or fathers. I believe all parents should make their own choices based on what they feel is best for their families. I also believe that people - mothers or fathers - who have nothing in their lives but their children are likely to be over-focused on those children to the detriment of both the children and the parents. The stay-at-home moms and dads I've known have always had something else to add perspective and interest to their lives, whether in the form of home businesses, school board participation, groups of friends, team sports or other hobbies and activities. As a result, they were better parents. I personally don't believe it's necessary to stay at home to be a good parent, but I wouldn't dream of "opposing" any one else's choice. Their choices are their business, not mine - just as my choices are my business and no one else's. I don’t oppose stay-at-home mother or fathers. I believe all parents should make their own choices based on what they feel is best for their families. I also believe that people – mothers or fathers – who have nothing in their lives but their children are likely to be over-focused on those children to the detriment of both the children and the parents. The stay-at-home moms and dads I’ve known have always had something else to add perspective and interest to their lives, whether in the form of home businesses, school board participation, groups of friends, team sports or other hobbies and activities. As a result, they were better parents.

I personally don’t believe it’s necessary to stay at home to be a good parent, but I wouldn’t dream of “opposing” any one else’s choice. Their choices are their business, not mine – just as my choices are my business and no one else’s.

]]> By: punup http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/2009/05/23/working-and-motheringno-apologies/#comment-326 punup Thu, 28 May 2009 17:31:31 +0000 http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/?p=436#comment-326 "A woman with a career that nurtures, satisfies and rewards her...is far more likely to be a wonderful mother than a woman who has nothing in her life but her own children." And I'm sure you will agree that a man who has a career is more likely to be a wonderful father than a man who has nothing but his own children? Right? So you would oppose stay at home fathers of course. “A woman with a career that nurtures, satisfies and rewards her…is far more likely to be a wonderful mother than a woman who has nothing in her life but her own children.” And I’m sure you will agree that a man who has a career is more likely to be a wonderful father than a man who has nothing but his own children? Right? So you would oppose stay at home fathers of course.

]]> By: Debra Snider http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/2009/05/23/working-and-motheringno-apologies/#comment-311 Debra Snider Sat, 23 May 2009 19:10:28 +0000 http://www.careerlifeconnection.com/blog/?p=436#comment-311 Well said! This whole notion that "mother of the year" has the same definition for all mothers is ridiculous, not to mention undermining and, at root, anti-feminist. A woman with a career that nurtures, satisfies and rewards her and a group of friends to feed her mind and spirt is far more likely, in my opinion, to be a wonderful mother than a woman who has nothing in her life but her own children. And feelings of guilt are simply misplaced. I write about this often; here's a link to one relevant post, in case you're interested: http://bit.ly/16LhGr Glad you had a great trip! Well said! This whole notion that “mother of the year” has the same definition for all mothers is ridiculous, not to mention undermining and, at root, anti-feminist. A woman with a career that nurtures, satisfies and rewards her and a group of friends to feed her mind and spirt is far more likely, in my opinion, to be a wonderful mother than a woman who has nothing in her life but her own children. And feelings of guilt are simply misplaced. I write about this often; here’s a link to one relevant post, in case you’re interested: http://bit.ly/16LhGr

Glad you had a great trip!

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